No red marks on the paper, no one fails and behavior is no longer considered in marks–so much has changed since I was in school. None of it for the better.
Bullying has always been part of the school experience but never has it been as malicious as now. Children are dying and our schools are a big part of the problem. How can bad things not happen when we never put any responsibility on our youth but give them the sense they are entitled to everything?
How do these things benefit a child?
1. No “x” or red marks. I remember when I was a music teacher and this idea was in its infancy. I thought it insane then and even more so now. How can anyone learn without being told when they got things wrong? I understand self esteem but a child knows when you lie to them. Not telling them they’ve made a mistake is a lie.
2. No failing a student. I was shocked to hear this is carrying over to higher levels of education. How can we go to say a doctor if they’re giving a pass to a failure? Kind of scary. In fact, no one in any secondary schooling should be given a pass on any part of their course if they haven’t achieved it. I can’t believe anyone can believe in themselves when everything they’ve achieved is based on a lie. What does that do to one’s self esteem when they are told they can’t achieve a pass and must be given one they haven’t earned?
3. Behavior not considered a factor in grades. This one really irritates me. Somewhere, behavior has to be considered. It is not fair for the students who want to do the work and actually pass a grade with the marks they’ve earned to deal with some class disrupting troublemaker. It is even less fair to the student who tries and struggles to be forced to deal with bad behavior. When children know the teacher has no influence over their behavior, you’ve got a problem. Our local school used a form of detention that quickly became a badge of honour to attend. There has to be a better way.
4. Lack of punishment options for bad behavior for teachers is a huge problem. In short, they have no options except to use intimidation, threats and mental abuse. I’d rather get a spanking than have someone mess with my emotional being. This in short, makes teachers bullies.
5. Lack of communication with parents is another problem. When my son was in grade school, he struggled with math. At parent teacher interviews, I was told he just wasn’t understanding concepts. Then quite by accident, I discovered his entire grade was struggling. IF the teacher had told us this, we could have dealt with this issue much sooner and more effectively. My son wasn’t the issue–the teacher was! But that’s the mentality–keep things hidden. Don’t ever admit failure on a teaching level. On another occasion, a teacher owed my child an apology. It took months for her to apologize. But here’s the problem–she belittled my child in front of the class but the apology was made in private. My daughter was unfairly labelled a bully in front of the class, the teacher should have corrected her error in front of the class. If teachers are not held accountable for their behavior, why would the students be?
Bullying isn’t going away. Creating entitled children will ensure that. But even worse, creating entitled teachers brings the bullying to a new level of ability.
It takes honesty and integrity to build self esteem, not lies. Discipline needs to be a part of the school system with both students and teachers. Parents need to know the truth and the secret society of the teaching profession needs to be cracked open so the garbage can spill out of this rotten egg!